Dear blog friends,

Today, I would like to share with you the great happiness I have just experienced.

This great happiness is in fact a great surprise. Wait... you will be amazed! But no more than I am! And I didn't receive just one surprise, they all followed each other and I was delighted!

First surprise:

In the course of December, when I was passionately translating for you the studies on the correspondence between the inner psychic world of the unconscious and the outer world of matter, the dreams all of a sudden showed me that I could present myself as a dream interpreter, yes, that I could begin to interpret dreams. Oh!

Second surprise:

The unconscious has sent me immediately a dreamer who brought me her dream. How about that! Amazing!

Third surprise :

The message of the dream left me stunned.

You know, for years, Christiane has been trying to show that dreams invite us to behave in a way that is the opposite of what we think is right. On pages and pages, articles and articles, she has given proof of this.

But all her assurance, all her demonstrations, with dreams to back them up, have always left me a little sceptical. Indeed, it seems obvious to me, as to you surely, that certain behaviours are necessary: being kind, understanding, patient, not judging people, that is part of our education!

Yes, well, damn it! Now a dream has come to me that proves Christiane's point. And it's the first dream I've had to interpret in my career as a dream interpreter!

The dream is not lacking in humour!

Fortunately Christiane had warned me, otherwise I would have been unable to understand this dream.
Let me have the pleasure to tell you about my adventure and to introduce you first to the person who received this dream:

Tania is a beautiful young woman, a real ray of sunshine for all those who are lucky enough to meet her. At work, she is always smiling and welcoming, full of energy and joie de vivre. She receives with deep empathy the confidences of everyone. Thanks to her, the big company in which she works is more welcoming and humane.

On the morning of December 16th, Tania woke up with a dream that surprised her. Here it is:

Dream

I dreamt about my sister-in-law.
She was pregnant.

That morning she first asked her mother what the dream might mean. She answered that the dream might be premonitory and that her sister-in-law might be pregnant... Mmmh.... This hypothesis left Tania sceptical. Is the character in the dream external or internal? Like everyone else, Tania's mother thought that the character in the dream was an external character. We'll see what it is.

Remembering that I study the interpretation of dreams, the dreamer called me.

In the course of our interview, I elucidated the meaning of the dream symbols using a remarkable method, which is constantly proving its effectiveness and accuracy: the dream interview method. It was created in the 1970s by the American Gayle Delaney (1), a doctor in clinical psychology. Following Gayle Delaney, Christiane has spread this technique in France, she has often explained it to you on the blog (2), and following Christiane, I also pass it on to you. This method is very rigorous and makes it possible to interpret a dream outside of any prior interpretation grid and any dictionary of symbols. Instead, the interpreter tailors the interpretation to suit the individual.

How to proceed with this technique?

For each symbol, I collect the dreamer's personal associations, and I ask her the following two questions each time:

1) If the symbol is a person I ask the question: Who is it?
If the symbol is an object, a place, an action, I ask the question: What is it?

I carefully note down the answer. Then I move on to the second question:

2) For a person I ask: What is she like?
For an object, a place, an action, I ask: What is it like?

Now let's see what Tania told me about the images of her dream:

- Your sister-in-law (I already know who she is), what is she like?

- Do you really want to know? Can I be frank? She's mean! She didn't want me to go to my brother's wedding! She didn't even tell me why! I think she's jealous, because I was very close to my brother before. She did everything she could to keep him and me apart.

Let's recap:

- So your sister-in-law is mean... She brutally imposes her will.

I asked Tania:

- Do you agree?

- Yes!

Then I had to link the symbol to Tania's daily life. Very often, the dream comes to comment on the events of the day before.

So I asked Tania the fundamental question that we will find again and again:

- What does it remind you of, yesterday, inside or outside of you, a way of being mean?

The answer came without hesitation:

- But it reminds me of the email I sent yesterday to my colleagues at work! At the moment, it's hell at work, nothing's going well. So I gathered all my courage and I explained in this email everything that was wrong! I got things straight! And believe me, I didn't mince my words!

This little analysis gave us a first hypothesis of the meaning of the image.

- So your sister-in-law would represent the one in you who was mean in writing this email.

Let's check if this hypothesis is right:

- By writing this email, did you do AS your sister-in-law did, you brutally imposed your will, you opposed your colleagues, just as your sister-in-law opposed you about your brother's wedding?

- Oh yes!

Meaning of the symbol:

So Tania behaved like her sister-in-law. We have checked that the comparison is correct, so our assumption is correct and we can be sure that the sister-in-law in the dream represents Tania.

Let's now look at the second symbol of the dream:

The sister-in-law was pregnant.

- Tania, being pregnant, what is it?

- It's when you're expecting a baby! It's bringing a new life! I can tell you about it, I gave birth eight months ago!

- So tell me, what is it like to be pregnant ?

- It's like spring: everything is new, you start a new page of life.

But how hard it is! Very hard! It's also a leap into the unknown, it's scary.

Let's recapitulate now:

- Being pregnant means preparing oneself to bring something new into the world. And it's hard, it's a leap into the unknown, it's scary. What does it remind you of, yesterday, inside or outside of you, preparing oneself to bring something new into the world?

- I hope this email I sent will make a difference.

- Was it hard? Was it a leap into the unknown that scared you?

- Yes, it was! I was wondering if I had been right to write this message, if I hadn't gone too far. It's not in my nature to write this kind of things. Usually I'm very discreet, and when I don't like something, I keep it to myself. But this was impossible, it was out of bounds! I was very harsh, you know, I surprised myself!

We have just checked the accuracy of the interpretation.

I took over the interpretation with Tania :

- Your mean sister-in-law is pregnant, so this mean attitude you had while writing this mail will bring something new! This message will bear fruit, it will have an effect!

- Ah but it's true! Well, this morning, following this email, I had an interview with my colleagues and it turns out that I won my case!

- So the dream came to reassure you about it, because it was hard to write this email, like pregnancy, it was a leap into the unknown that frightened you. You had a lot of doubts.

The dream warns you that this way of being mean, of defending yourself ferociously is fruitful, it brings about changes that are beneficial for you. It reminds you of the importance of thumping your fist on the table to assert yourself when necessary.

- I will remember it! I feel full of energy, said Tania, with a smile in her voice. It brightens up my day! Thank you!

Dear blog friends, this was a short dream with a very clear message.

I hope it will encourage you to bare fangs too when the time comes, to defend yourselves fiercely against those who go too far and take advantage of your kindness. A "mean" attitude can be fruitful, with excellent consequences for the benefit of those around you!

And if you were too mean, don't be afraid, a dream will come to warn you that you have gone too far!

If I hadn't already received for myself dreams that advised me to get angry, I wouldn't have been able to understand Tania's dream. It plunges us into alchemy, the cursed and saving therapy. The dream asks us to broaden our range of behaviour and adapt it to the circumstances. Sometimes, what is bad is precisely what is good!

And how happy we are when we express our anger, when we are fair and true to ourselves!

This, dear blog friends, is the theme of the studies that is now emerging: anger.

A reality that will surprise many, a reality that will relieve many others, a reality of rare therapeutic power for all.

See you next time!

Marianne
a.vos.songes@gmail.com
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This article was first published on the French blog on 21 January 2021:
L'attitude féconde n'est pas forcément celle que vous croyez

References

(1) You will read with interest All About Dreams (1998) by Gayle Delaney, Ph.D.
You can also read the interview method explained on Dr Gayle Delaney's website: How to conduct a dream interview

(2) To practice the dream interview method:

Christiane explained with many details how to practice the dream interview method. She gave many examples of dreams that were understood thanks to Dr Gayle Delaney's dream interview method:

Lesson 1 : How to decipher the meaning of a man in a dream
An old buddy
The dream answers after a dream incubation
The cat, or how the dream answers Irina's new question
Who is the other?
Dream Incubation's limit: Sarkozy's son
How to interpret an object in a dream
Incubation question - What are dreams?
The dreams answers a question without incubation - Christiane's dream
Once again a coffee - How to interpret an object in a dream
Patricia's brain tumor

Illustrations

I would like to thank the artists who enabled me to illustrate this article:

Blue-eyed surprised woman: Cool Wallpapers

Surprised woman with orange background: Nikolas Lukash

Surprised woman with yellow background: https://www.istockphoto.com

Pregnant woman on the red couch: Johanne Molaison
http://joane.livegalerie.com/

Pregnant belly: Philippe Flohic
https://www.repro-tableaux.com/a/philippe-flohic.html
https://www.philippeflohic.art/
http://fr.artquid.com/artist/philippe.flohic/philippe-flohic.html

"Épanouie", radiant pregnant woman: Adéline Albert
https://www.adelinealbert.com/
https://www.pinterest.fr/adelinealbertart/
https://www.facebook.com/AdelineAlbertArt/
https://www.instagram.com/adelinealbertart/

Roaring lion: Petr Ganaj
https://www.instagram.com/petrganaj/
https://www.pexels.com/de-de/@ganajp

King Lion (pregnant belly painting) : Alex Makwana
https://www.facebook.com/alexmakwanaart

My dear friends,

To follow current events and concerns, we have just studied five cases - three dream analyses and two case studies - that dealt with ecology, the health of our planet earth and climate events. We were able to see that there is a correlation between the inner and outer world: the processes of psychic life seem to have a decisive effect on the concrete events of life on earth.

To my delight, a comment on my French blog supported this viewpoint.

Before I begin my study today, I would therefore like to thank Catherine for her valuable observations about the rainmakers and the weathermakers. Catherine brought us the remarkable testimony that a Sufi spiritual master wrote about 950 years ago:

"Sheikh Ali Farmadhi (who died in 1078) already stressed the importance of what the Sufis believe, so he wrote:

- The "invisible world" interpenetrates ordinary reality at all times and in different places. What we regard as inexplicable is actually due to this intervention. People do not recognise the participation of this "world" in ours because they believe they know the real cause of the events.

In fact, they don't know it.

It is only when they manage to keep in mind the possibility that another dimension sometimes affects ordinary experiences, that this dimension can become accessible to them.

We have evolved and we finally accept to perceive what was strange to us, to understand that Everything IS already; this Everything is waiting for our mind to use it because it is attributed to us, consecrated to us."

I thank Catherine for her clear and very welcome contribution.

The last five articles have given us examples of advice and solutions to help us achieve this indispensable balance between the outside world and the world inside.

To the women who sought advice from the dreams, the dream advised them to maintain loving relationships,

to respect the different aspects of unconscious life, to honour and nurture natural spontaneous instinctive forces, whether manifested through the senses or through the spirit, to welcome feelings and intuitions, to trust the mysterious forces that rule the earth, instead of taking for granted that it is the conscious that dominates and directs.

Others, men, did not seek assistance from dreams, but chose a mystical attitude of inner relationship with the divine force. The old rainmaker Chinese went into meditation in order to empty his mind and retune himself to the universal force, the tao. General Patton, on the verge of military defeat, not zen at all, addressed God in a hell of a row, in a prayer that was original to say the least, and very cheeky: he asked the God of Armies to make the rain stop, which did not seem to upset the Creator, since the general was granted a sun beyond his expectations.

Still others, men and women, absorbed themselves in processions, in prayers, told their rosary and all these manifestations of piety undoubtedly helped to establish the desired balance in the environment, made the rain or the good weather return.

Ah well, very well.

Very good.

Yes, and then...

... what do I do now, in my neck of the woods, to help the earth, to balance the external forces around me with the internal forces within me?

And I think of my readers.

Do they do, can they even do anything to change themselves internally, and consequently change the environment?

Tricky questions!

Questions that are starting to annoy me a bit!

Yes, my dear blog friends, I am thinking of you, of your daily life, of all your burdens and constraints: rushing to work, taking care of the children and the spouse, working around the house; and despite these multiple and overwhelming activities, despite the tiredness, would you still have time to take care of your partner, and to make love?

And how do you manage in this exhausting period of pandemic and uncertainties, how do you manage to retreat to calm and "to be in tune with the Tao"... difficult, right?

You can always, like Patton, not zen, bawl out the Lord, it might calm your nerves, despite what people think. But then again...

... And after that ?

Enough is enough, the irritation increases, the anger boils over and, not zen at all, maybe you cry out, and so do I with you:

"- But I've had enough! I don't give a damn about the tao! I don't care about stammering prayers, even in the underground, where I can barely stand on my legs because of the exhaustion, or even sitting in my car stuck in the traffic jams. And afterwards, once at home, at the end of the day, I couldn't care less about meditating when I have to take care of the family and I can't take it anymore! And what am I going to do to harmonize stuff and whatnot? But what the hell do I care ?"

My dear blog friends, if these protests are yours, how I understand you! If not, please read my article anyway, which might teach you something. The messages of dreams are so surprising...

I think of you with all my heart and a dream came to my mind that I had interpreted a long time ago. I found it so simple, so beautiful, so comforting that I have already put it on my blog. Here it is again today, in a slightly different presentation. This dream is in fact for everyone, for those who seek to center themselves as well as for those who don't.

It is Loretta who received this dream. Christ appeared to her several times in her dreams.

And she aspires to experience this inner illumination again, this communion with the divine, or in other words, to become one with the Tao.

She received a dream that marked her and she confided it to me. Here it is:

Dream

I'm at my mother's house, sitting in her kitchen. The priest, Father André Marie, enters. I go to the bathroom. When I come back, he's not there anymore. I ask my mother:

- Did you offer him a coffee?

- I'm sorry, she says, I didn't think about it.

Silly story, prosaic dream. What does it mean?

Who are these different characters? Loretta explains:

My mother has been dead for several years. She was a devoted woman who did everything for her 7 children. She always had a lot of work to take care of her family and her house. She didn't show her affection with tender gestures, but everything she did she did with all of her heart.

Loretta immediately recognizes her own maternal side, which puts all her heart into taking care of her family.

The kitchen

In the home, it is the place par excellence where the mother shows her love by preparing lovely tasty dishes for her children with all the work involved. A kitchen is a warm and welcoming place, says Loretta, and it's a pleasure to gather there.

At that moment

the priest, Father André Marie, enters.

Let's analyse this symbol:

- What is a priest?

Loretta explains to me:

- He is a man who helps in the spiritual life, he guides towards God.

- And Father André Marie, can you tell me what he's like?

- He lives in everyday life, he knows me well, he always tells me that I push myself too hard, that I feel too guilty, that my efforts towards perfection and my desire for fulfilment don't necessarily lead me to God. He tells me that I am fine the way I am, that God loves me the way I am, with my imperfections.

I take up this description and ask:

- Loretta, tell me, someone who helps you in your spiritual life, who knows you well, who tells you that God loves you just the way you are, who does this remind you of outside or inside of you?

- On the outside, of Father André Marie of course...

Inside of me? Who would that be? Inside of me?

Loretta seeks, reflects and continues her monologue:

- In me, ... someone, who knows me? ... who tells me that God loves me as I am ...? But... couldn't it be... God?

God is the meaning that Loretta suggests for the image of the priest.

- Well, I said, we have a first hypothesis of interpretation. We will check it out.

I take up all the associations of the dreamer and ask:

- For you, does God live in everyday life?

- Yes, the dreamer answers, he is always present in my thoughts.

- Does he tell you that you push yourself too hard?

- Well, from time to time, like Father André Marie, something gives me the feeling that I make things too complicated to please God.

- To God, are you fine the way you are?

- Who is the one who won't reproach me, if not God?

We have carried out the checks, so the priest André Marie is indeed a representation of the Divine Force.

This is not the first time we have seen the divine appear in dreams in human form. It is even a common phenomenon. I have given many illustrations of it on my French blog. There is, for example, the dream of the American businessman whom God visits. In that dream, neither the businessman nor anyone else noticed that God was there: only the humble servant saw him, she was the one who announced his presence. (1)

Let's continue our study:

The priest enters the kitchen.

Ah! What does this detail tell us? We learn that it is in the kitchen that God chooses to present Himself. That is to say? The kitchen, Loretta told us, is the place where the mother manifests her love to the family by preparing lovely tasty dishes, it is a warm and welcoming place, it is the heart of the home.

And who does God visit?

Here God presents Himself to the devoted mother. It is to the maternal Loretta in her kitchen, who does nothing to seek God: but she shows her love to others by peeling potatoes, baking cakes, doing the dishes, and repeating these little tasks every day, with love and patience.

Thus the divine comes to accompany those who serve others with love and devotion, in the humble daily reality. The dream invites the dreamer to become aware of this.

But Loretta has only one idea in mind: to be impeccable, without fault, she only thinks of going to the bathroom to purify herself, to present herself pure before God.

The dreamer then explains to me that she practices several rituals to prepare herself, to harmonise with the divine forces and to come into contact with them. To do this, she surrounds herself with candles, practises visualisations, concentrating on the image of the face of the Virgin or of Christ.

And after that, this is what she finds out in the kitchen:

When I come back, Father André Marie is no longer there.

So, when she feels pure, she comes back to spend some time with the priest, to meet God, ... he is no longer there, ... he is gone.

So the divine had come to see her without worrying about her purity. As the priest André Marie said to Loretta: "God loves you as you are, with your impurities".

Loretta then asked her mother:

- Did you offer him a coffee?

- Sorry, I didn't think about it.

Now let's see what is ...

A coffee

- It's something you offer someone as a greeting, Loretta tells me.

- And what's it like?

- It's good, it's warm, it makes you feel good.

- Is there anything else you can tell me?

- No, ... I don't know.

What happens in the dream?

Neither Loretta nor her mother offered the priest a coffee. Neither of them welcomed the divine when he presented himself in the kitchen.

Yes, this is the meaning of the image. The dreamer said it right away: "Coffee is a way of greeting someone".

And the divine who appeared in the kitchen didn't get any coffee...

What a great spiritual lesson this little, seemingly silly dream gives us!

What does it teach us?

The fashionable purification rituals, the high aspirations to enter into a altered state of consciousness, in contact with the divine, or with "ascended" Masters, to empty oneself through meditations, to make efforts of concentration, breathing exercises, as proposed by many current approaches which are meant to be therapeutic, that, according to the dream, does not necessarily lead to a contact with the divine.

No, to get there, it's easy, too easy, very simple, too simple, too silly: as Loretta said, God, alias the priest André Marie, lives in everyday life, he accompanies us here below, every day, in our banal life, in this earthly mediocrity, from which we aspire to escape, to try to reach the magnificence of the divine celestial spheres.

However when the divine manifests itself in us within our everyday life, without brilliance, without miracle, without synchronicity, without anything sensational, without vibrations in the body, without trembling, without visualisations, without dazzling images, without Kundalini rising, without ecstasy, ... we forget to welcome Him where he appears.

When he comes to tell us :

"I love you as you are in your darkness and your modest little simple life, with your mistakes, your inadequacies, your weaknesses, that's where I am with you", we don't even offer him a coffee.

And yet!

What good news, my dear blog friends!

The dream has given us a lesson in the "kitchen tao", so to speak.

Now, what awaits us?

With perseverance we will struggle in our daily lives, busy with a thousand small dreary things; with dedication we will have to deal with the thousand little hassles of everyday life, working patiently, with a smile, welcoming the other with warmth, and there ...

Yes, there, even if we can't believe it, even if we want something else, yes, there, we will know that we are in our right place, we will know that the divine is there too, there he accompanies us and loves us as we are.

The altered states of consciousness? The spiritual awakening? The Tao? Emptying oneself? Following a discipline to meditate? Taking special positions? Doing Lotus Flower Mudra with your fingers? Breathing exercises? Some OM? Trying in some way to harmonise conscious and unconscious to save the planet?

No, the dream doesn't talk about it.

What it offers us is to be aware that our everyday life is sacred: God presents Himself discreetly at every moment in our humble experiences, even if our ego finds no gratification in it. Thus by welcoming the divine, by letting Him take His place in our small, inglorious daily life, our inner earth is cared for and our outer earth blossoms.

The Angelus by French painter Millet.
The Angelus is the prayer to which the bells call, in the morning, at noon and at the end of the day.

Next time, I will tell you the real story of a little boy who met God right in the middle of an everyday life incident.

Christiane

Translated by Marianne

French blog:

(1) the dream of the American businessman:

http://christiane-riedel.blogspirit.com/archive/2008/03/30/il-est-un-reve-etrange-et-debonnaire.html

Its interpretation:

http://christiane-riedel.blogspirit.com/archive/2008/04/22/il-est-un-reve-etrange-et-debonnaire-interpretation.html

Illustrations

I would like to thank the artists whose works allowed me to illustrate my blog.

The proposal: painting by contemporary Scottish artist Jack Vettriano.
http://tillart.co.uk/
https://www.jackvettriano.com/

Gandalf: arwen.undomiel.com

Procession: http://www.surinenglish.com/lifestyle/201803/16/passion-holy-week-andalucia-20180316093204-v.html

Mindfulness meditation: https://www.yogajournalfrance.fr/meditation-de-pleine-conscience-quid-pourquoi-pour-qui/

Overwhelming task:http://express.fr/actualite/societe/la-charge-mentale-le-syndrome-des-femmes-epuisees-d-avoir-a-penser-a-tout_1906874.html

Christ Face: "The transfiguration" of the contemporary French artist Arcabas (Jean-Marie Pirot), one of the greatest artists of contemporary sacred art, internationally recognised. http://www.arcabas.com/oeuvres/index.php

Kitchen: https://www.cuisineaz.com/diaporamas/cuisiner-en-famille-1306/interne/1.aspx

Meditation: espaceducalme.canalblog.com

The Priest André Marie: self-portrait of the painter Arcabas (Jean-Marie Pirot), who died in 2018. https://www.placegrenet.fr/2018/08/23/peintre-arcabas-decede-91-ans/203987

Radiant Christ: http://eucharistiemisericor.free.fr/index.php?page=misericorde_divine

The Angelus, painted from 1857 to 1859 by the French artist Millet (1814-1875), famous for his pastoral paintings. https://fr.wikipedia.org/wiki/L'Angélus

This article was published on the French blog on 10 December 2019: http://christiane-riedel.blogspirit.com/archive/2019/12/10/et-moi-je-fais-quoi-3144790.html