Dear blog friends,

Today, I would like to share with you the great happiness I have just experienced.

This great happiness is in fact a great surprise. Wait... you will be amazed! But no more than I am! And I didn't receive just one surprise, they all followed each other and I was delighted!

First surprise:

In the course of December, when I was passionately translating for you the studies on the correspondence between the inner psychic world of the unconscious and the outer world of matter, the dreams all of a sudden showed me that I could present myself as a dream interpreter, yes, that I could begin to interpret dreams. Oh!

Second surprise:

The unconscious has sent me immediately a dreamer who brought me her dream. How about that! Amazing!

Third surprise :

The message of the dream left me stunned.

You know, for years, Christiane has been trying to show that dreams invite us to behave in a way that is the opposite of what we think is right. On pages and pages, articles and articles, she has given proof of this.

But all her assurance, all her demonstrations, with dreams to back them up, have always left me a little sceptical. Indeed, it seems obvious to me, as to you surely, that certain behaviours are necessary: being kind, understanding, patient, not judging people, that is part of our education!

Yes, well, damn it! Now a dream has come to me that proves Christiane's point. And it's the first dream I've had to interpret in my career as a dream interpreter!

The dream is not lacking in humour!

Fortunately Christiane had warned me, otherwise I would have been unable to understand this dream.
Let me have the pleasure to tell you about my adventure and to introduce you first to the person who received this dream:

Tania is a beautiful young woman, a real ray of sunshine for all those who are lucky enough to meet her. At work, she is always smiling and welcoming, full of energy and joie de vivre. She receives with deep empathy the confidences of everyone. Thanks to her, the big company in which she works is more welcoming and humane.

On the morning of December 16th, Tania woke up with a dream that surprised her. Here it is:

Dream

I dreamt about my sister-in-law.
She was pregnant.

That morning she first asked her mother what the dream might mean. She answered that the dream might be premonitory and that her sister-in-law might be pregnant... Mmmh.... This hypothesis left Tania sceptical. Is the character in the dream external or internal? Like everyone else, Tania's mother thought that the character in the dream was an external character. We'll see what it is.

Remembering that I study the interpretation of dreams, the dreamer called me.

In the course of our interview, I elucidated the meaning of the dream symbols using a remarkable method, which is constantly proving its effectiveness and accuracy: the dream interview method. It was created in the 1970s by the American Gayle Delaney (1), a doctor in clinical psychology. Following Gayle Delaney, Christiane has spread this technique in France, she has often explained it to you on the blog (2), and following Christiane, I also pass it on to you. This method is very rigorous and makes it possible to interpret a dream outside of any prior interpretation grid and any dictionary of symbols. Instead, the interpreter tailors the interpretation to suit the individual.

How to proceed with this technique?

For each symbol, I collect the dreamer's personal associations, and I ask her the following two questions each time:

1) If the symbol is a person I ask the question: Who is it?
If the symbol is an object, a place, an action, I ask the question: What is it?

I carefully note down the answer. Then I move on to the second question:

2) For a person I ask: What is she like?
For an object, a place, an action, I ask: What is it like?

Now let's see what Tania told me about the images of her dream:

- Your sister-in-law (I already know who she is), what is she like?

- Do you really want to know? Can I be frank? She's mean! She didn't want me to go to my brother's wedding! She didn't even tell me why! I think she's jealous, because I was very close to my brother before. She did everything she could to keep him and me apart.

Let's recap:

- So your sister-in-law is mean... She brutally imposes her will.

I asked Tania:

- Do you agree?

- Yes!

Then I had to link the symbol to Tania's daily life. Very often, the dream comes to comment on the events of the day before.

So I asked Tania the fundamental question that we will find again and again:

- What does it remind you of, yesterday, inside or outside of you, a way of being mean?

The answer came without hesitation:

- But it reminds me of the email I sent yesterday to my colleagues at work! At the moment, it's hell at work, nothing's going well. So I gathered all my courage and I explained in this email everything that was wrong! I got things straight! And believe me, I didn't mince my words!

This little analysis gave us a first hypothesis of the meaning of the image.

- So your sister-in-law would represent the one in you who was mean in writing this email.

Let's check if this hypothesis is right:

- By writing this email, did you do AS your sister-in-law did, you brutally imposed your will, you opposed your colleagues, just as your sister-in-law opposed you about your brother's wedding?

- Oh yes!

Meaning of the symbol:

So Tania behaved like her sister-in-law. We have checked that the comparison is correct, so our assumption is correct and we can be sure that the sister-in-law in the dream represents Tania.

Let's now look at the second symbol of the dream:

The sister-in-law was pregnant.

- Tania, being pregnant, what is it?

- It's when you're expecting a baby! It's bringing a new life! I can tell you about it, I gave birth eight months ago!

- So tell me, what is it like to be pregnant ?

- It's like spring: everything is new, you start a new page of life.

But how hard it is! Very hard! It's also a leap into the unknown, it's scary.

Let's recapitulate now:

- Being pregnant means preparing oneself to bring something new into the world. And it's hard, it's a leap into the unknown, it's scary. What does it remind you of, yesterday, inside or outside of you, preparing oneself to bring something new into the world?

- I hope this email I sent will make a difference.

- Was it hard? Was it a leap into the unknown that scared you?

- Yes, it was! I was wondering if I had been right to write this message, if I hadn't gone too far. It's not in my nature to write this kind of things. Usually I'm very discreet, and when I don't like something, I keep it to myself. But this was impossible, it was out of bounds! I was very harsh, you know, I surprised myself!

We have just checked the accuracy of the interpretation.

I took over the interpretation with Tania :

- Your mean sister-in-law is pregnant, so this mean attitude you had while writing this mail will bring something new! This message will bear fruit, it will have an effect!

- Ah but it's true! Well, this morning, following this email, I had an interview with my colleagues and it turns out that I won my case!

- So the dream came to reassure you about it, because it was hard to write this email, like pregnancy, it was a leap into the unknown that frightened you. You had a lot of doubts.

The dream warns you that this way of being mean, of defending yourself ferociously is fruitful, it brings about changes that are beneficial for you. It reminds you of the importance of thumping your fist on the table to assert yourself when necessary.

- I will remember it! I feel full of energy, said Tania, with a smile in her voice. It brightens up my day! Thank you!

Dear blog friends, this was a short dream with a very clear message.

I hope it will encourage you to bare fangs too when the time comes, to defend yourselves fiercely against those who go too far and take advantage of your kindness. A "mean" attitude can be fruitful, with excellent consequences for the benefit of those around you!

And if you were too mean, don't be afraid, a dream will come to warn you that you have gone too far!

If I hadn't already received for myself dreams that advised me to get angry, I wouldn't have been able to understand Tania's dream. It plunges us into alchemy, the cursed and saving therapy. The dream asks us to broaden our range of behaviour and adapt it to the circumstances. Sometimes, what is bad is precisely what is good!

And how happy we are when we express our anger, when we are fair and true to ourselves!

This, dear blog friends, is the theme of the studies that is now emerging: anger.

A reality that will surprise many, a reality that will relieve many others, a reality of rare therapeutic power for all.

See you next time!

Marianne
a.vos.songes@gmail.com
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This article was first published on the French blog on 21 January 2021:
L'attitude féconde n'est pas forcément celle que vous croyez

References

(1) You will read with interest All About Dreams (1998) by Gayle Delaney, Ph.D.
You can also read the interview method explained on Dr Gayle Delaney's website: How to conduct a dream interview

(2) To practice the dream interview method:

Christiane explained with many details how to practice the dream interview method. She gave many examples of dreams that were understood thanks to Dr Gayle Delaney's dream interview method:

Lesson 1 : How to decipher the meaning of a man in a dream
An old buddy
The dream answers after a dream incubation
The cat, or how the dream answers Irina's new question
Who is the other?
Dream Incubation's limit: Sarkozy's son
How to interpret an object in a dream
Incubation question - What are dreams?
The dreams answers a question without incubation - Christiane's dream
Once again a coffee - How to interpret an object in a dream
Patricia's brain tumor

Illustrations

I would like to thank the artists who enabled me to illustrate this article:

Blue-eyed surprised woman: Cool Wallpapers

Surprised woman with orange background: Nikolas Lukash

Surprised woman with yellow background: https://www.istockphoto.com

Pregnant woman on the red couch: Johanne Molaison
http://joane.livegalerie.com/

Pregnant belly: Philippe Flohic
https://www.repro-tableaux.com/a/philippe-flohic.html
https://www.philippeflohic.art/
http://fr.artquid.com/artist/philippe.flohic/philippe-flohic.html

"Épanouie", radiant pregnant woman: Adéline Albert
https://www.adelinealbert.com/
https://www.pinterest.fr/adelinealbertart/
https://www.facebook.com/AdelineAlbertArt/
https://www.instagram.com/adelinealbertart/

Roaring lion: Petr Ganaj
https://www.instagram.com/petrganaj/
https://www.pexels.com/de-de/@ganajp

King Lion (pregnant belly painting) : Alex Makwana
https://www.facebook.com/alexmakwanaart

Who is the “other”?

How to decipher the meaning of a person in a dream ?

Dreams have the surprising habit of telling you what no one knows, what no one dares to tell you, and also what you don’t necessarily want to hear.  Throughout your nights, with patience and benevolence they show you the different facets that exist within you, all your different ways of being.

To make you aware of that, dreams will tell you: “Look inside yourself, you are LIKE Mr.X or Mrs.Y, whom you know in the exterior world.  You have the qualities or faults that you attribute to them”.

Only you don’t know it.  But your interior world knows and wants to make you aware of it. 

Indeed it is in your best interest to get to know these unrecognized aspects of yourself to harmonize them and to realize your full potential as well as your life realization.

 So, when you study a dream you must first know that most often, the persons in the dream are facets of yourself.  While in most cases they are describing you, it occasionally happens that these persons represent the corresponding person in the exterior world.

In another coming lesson, I will explain how to know if the image of your dream is personifying an interior aspect of yourself or an exterior person.                                                   

I emphasize that every time, for every  person in the dream, you will have to study the image with the interview technique in order to know exactly what the dream is talking about.

That is the way to proceed regarding the image in your dream.  A more thorough and comprehensive explanation of this method can be found in Gail Delaney’s books featured on my blog.

A certain state of mind

It is important to approach a dream with a certain state of mind :

- accepting that you have the solution and that with a bit of attention you’ll  find it.

- accepting that you will make the required extra effort rather than consulting a readymade dream analysis book or a catalogue of symbols. 

- accepting to refrain from reverting to astrology or tarot cards etc. to interpret your dream.  Indeed the dream itself gives you messages that are much more precise, personal and adequate if one deciphers it.

Interpreting a dream is not a matter of divination, or pseudo intuition, it is a scientific research, requiring rigorous and honest reflection and logical analysis. Only by working in this manner can you be sure of the result.

The Dream Interview Method 

Here, I propose to you a practice of this method. You will be the interpreter and the dreamer, both asking the questions and answering them. And it works ! Of course it is much more pleasant if somebody else is leading the interview.

Dream example : Rita, a 45 year old woman, a mother, sees a woman in her dream, Mrs. X.

1) We must proceed with the interview and ask questions

Question 1: WHO is Mrs. X?

Answer: She is my neighbor.  She lives across the street.

Advice: Don’t let yourself get caught up in endless descriptions. Take the first three associations which came to the dreamer’s mind,  three sentences are sufficient.

Question 2 : HOW is Mrs. X ?

Answer : She’s a very active, intelligent woman, who takes good care of her children, but she’s an awful neighbor.  I always have the impression that she’s watching everyone, she has a tendency to be nosy and to get involved in other people’s business.

Advice :You must note the associations and descriptions given, with great care leaving nothing aside.Here again, being a beginner at interpretation, limit yourself to a maximum of 3 or 4 sentences.

2) Do the recapitulation

Take the answers given to questions 1 and 2.  Give preference to the abstract answers.  Limit yourself to 3 sentences. Use only the dreamer' own words.

Example of a recapitulation : Mrs. X is an intelligent woman, but is inclined to be nosy and get involved in other people’s business.

3) Establishing the link with everyday life

Ask the following question : looking inside or outside yourself what does following description remind you of : “an intelligent woman who is inclined to be nosy and get involved in other people’s business” ?

 The dreamer will think about it.

She says : On the outside it is Mrs. X.

How about inside the dreamer ?  I ask Rita if Mrs. X could represent a particular behavior, an aspect of her own personality that she is not really aware of ?

4) The dreamer answers this question and finds the meaning of the image.

When I asked that last question, Rita remembered that, the day before that dream, she had rummaged through her teenage son’s pockets and read a letter that was addressed to him. 

She had done that self righteously, thinking that her behavior was that of a responsible mother concerned with her son’s welfare.

But her interior world doesn’t see the situation in the same manner and comes to express its opinion in the night. Rita understood why the dream showed her the image of the nosy neighbor.  Indeed she had behaved like Mrs. X, and the dream showed her that that was detestable.

5) Proceed to verifications, this is imperative.                                                                            

We don’t end our investigation at the fourth step of the method. It is not sufficient to have found the interpretation  made by the dreamer. Only by making verifications can you be sure that the meaning found is adequate. The verifications give proof of the validity of the interpretation.

I reiterate that I firmly oppose “esoteric” ways of interpreting dreams which can lead to so many errors and abuses, that Napoleon in the 19th century had even passed a law forbidding dream interpretation and fortune telling, in order to protect the public from trickery.

Getting back to our dream, it is still indispensable to check if all that has been said about the neighbor can also be said about the dreamer.

For this, one must go over every sentence covering the different points of the description and ask:

- Are you also an intelligent woman ? 

- Active ? 

- Do you take good care of your children ? 

- On occasion are you too curious ? 

- Do you have a tendency to watch everybody ?

If one of these points isn’t suitable, then the meaning found for the symbol " Mrs. X " is wrong.  In that case one must redo the whole interview and the dreamer must be very honest with herself.

If the different elements of the description suit both the dreamer and Mrs. X, then you have found the signification of the symbol.

6) Apply the message in our everyday life                                                           

It is useless to decipher a dream if one is not willing to accept and apply its indications.

Rita quickly understood the reproach of her dream and from then on abstained from giving in to her “nosy inclination”.  Her son appreciated the respect she showed towards him.

Illustrations

I thank all the artists and photographers whose works permit me to illustrate my blog.

Symbols catalog : dreams : luckymojo.com

Tarot dream interpretation : ravenmoonlight.com

Woman at work : natureacive.fr

Nude woman in a veil, by the French artist Enjolras, 1857-1945, interencheres.com

Stressed woman : papillesetpupilles.fr

Woman playing violoncello by the French artist Jacqueline Hubert : http:// www.jacqueline-hubert.com

The neighbor : Harriet Samson Harris, purepeople.com

The nosy neighbor : Felicia Tilman, tvqc.com

Harriet Samson Harris, desperate housewife, episode39.fr

Lettre d’amour :blog.fille.com

Harriet Samson Harris, sharetv.org

Jean Baptiste Maunier in the film “ The Choristers”

Jean Baptiste Maunier : teemix.aufeminin.com