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  • HOW CAN I TREAT MY CHERRY TREE?

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    Dear blog friends,

    Today, I would like to take up the study of a currently very important topic again, that is, the catastrophic state of the Earth. As for me, I tried to put in the dream's two cents by asking a few questions:

    - Does the unconscious, who is often so benevolent, send dreams that would offer solutions to the problem of the planet?

    - Which are then the dreams that could enlighten us?

    - Could we discover in these dreams one or several constants that might enable us to venture a few consistent deductions, or even to venture a potential solution?

    Thus, we have studied two dreams : “Threat of a planetary disaster” and “Saving the planet”; these two dreams have led us to advance the following hypothesis :

    Could there be a connection between the outer world and the inner world?

    Could the quality of our environment on Earth be related to the quality of our inner, instinctive life, which the alchemists called “our inner earth”, whose other name is the unconscious?

    Could our outer Earth be ill because our inner earth is mistreated?

    So here comes the third part of this original study. We are going to see a dream which answers the question and gets right to the heart of the matter: “How can I treat my cherry tree?”

    Circumstances

    Carole, a dynamic psychtherapist in her forties, is well aware of the importance of sexual life. She tells her clients about it, and as for her, she is well conscious of the vigilance that sexual life requires. She has a very sound approach of the needs of her body and lives close to her instinct. Therefore, it is not this aspect of her life which concerns her. What does worry her at the moment is the cherry tree in her garden, which begins to wither away without reason.

     

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    She doesn't know how to treat it and decides to confide in her dream, which has so often kindly given her advice and precious help. Before sleep, she asks the question “How can I treat my cherry tree?”

    And she receives this dream:

     

    Dream: Raspberries and basil

    I am in the garden of my next door neighbour. I am picking raspberries which I put in my wicker basket. The neighbour tells me not to take much of them, because he wants to make raspberry jam.

    I go home, I realise that I don't have my key, I am suddenly afraid that I might have lost it, especially as I only have one. Then I go back to the garden and find it under the raspberry bushes. I take it and go back home.

    Jean-Luc is standing in the kitchen. He's giving me a surprise by preparing a recipe for lunch. He explains me that for this recipe he needed basil.

     

    Now let us analyse the different symbols.

    I pick raspberries which I put in my wicker basket.

    Raspberries: with their exquisite flavour, these little red berries immediately remind of the delicious pleasures of the female body.

     

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    My basket: the basket is a receptacle that can stand for the lower abdomen or pelvis. But Carole also immediately thinks of the french expression “mettre la main au panier”, “to put the hand to the basket”, which means “to touch somebody's butt/bum”, and deduces that her basket, in her dream, not only represents her pelvis, but also her fundament, the more or less vulgar synonyms of which are the rump, the bottom, the ass.

    So the basket is an image to denote the part of her body connected to sexuality.

    I put raspberries in my wicker basket.

     

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    This wicker basket could also have been made of straw. Why then does the dream choose this material? Listen ... Do you hear? “Wicker”, “Osier” in French, wicker that plays with “Oser y est”, “Dare is there”. It's about daring. With the wicker basket, it is a matter of daring to do something in one's sex life.

    The image indicates that our dreamer dares to pick the pleasures of her body. She dares to pleasure herself.

     

    Serge Marshennikov Painting Women in Love 1.jpg

     

    The neighbour tells me not to take much of them:

    The neighbour represents a facet of the dreamer, who wishes to restrict the picking and limit the delights of autoeroticism.

    He wants to make jam: Carole does not want to touch the berries to keep them for later.

    So what does the dream mean with these raspberries, these solitary pleasures that should not be picked, but on the contrary left on the bush, and then with this jam that is to be eaten later on?

    I then ask the young woman:

    - What does that make you think of in your sex life, solitary pleasures that you dare to put in your basket, while forbidding yourself to pick a lot of them, because you have to save them for later?

    Carole answers me right away:

    - But that's exactly what is happening, I really want to pleasure myself at the moment, because my friend is away, and I often feel the desire rising in me. But I avoid touching myself alone because I want to save myself for him. I want to save, to keep all my loving energy for him.

     

    Serge Marshennikov Painting Women in Love 2.jpg

     

    Let's see the rest of the dream. What does it show?

    I go home, I realise that I don't have my key, I think I lost it, I find it under the raspberry bushes.

    When Carole gives up the red berries to save herself for her friend, what happens then? She lost her key under the bushes.

    What is this key that opens her door? You immediately understood that this elongated object represents the clitoris, which opens the door to love pleasures.

    So what does the dream teach us? When the dreamer refuses to satisfy her sexual desires on her own to keep these pleasures to share them with her friend, she misplaces her key, she weakens her capacity for pleasure. Abstinence and lack of training causes the loss of vitality in this exquisitely sensitive organ.

    Ten or twenty years ago the subject of female masturbation was still taboo. We hardly talked about it, but the dreams spoke out loud about it. I often saw it in women's dreams.

    Someone also got it right, namely the famous sexologist Dr. Gérard Leleu, who in 2005 in his book The caress of Venus insists and explains: "The clitoris is in a way the "key" to female sexuality".

    And he recommends:

    Let women practice clitoral self-stimulation regularly, for it is the best preparation for sexual union.

    Doctor Leleu also stresses that this self-stimulation must already be done by the little girl.

     

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    So the famous sex therapist gives women the same advice as the dream.

    As for me, in 2006 appeared my book Love and sex in your dreams (Amour et sexe dans vos rêves), prefaced precisely by Dr Gérard Leleu. I studied the subject there in chapters 4 and 5 in particular and I explained several dreams which underline the benefits of masturbation. (Dreams n° 23, 24, 26, 60, 66)

     

    Book cover - Amour et Sexe dans vos rêves - Love and sex in your dreams - Christiane Riedel.jpg

     

    You will also find on the French blog an "astounding" dream:

    http://christiane-riedel.blogspirit.com/archive/2008/11/30/le-reve-therapeute-ch-6.html

    Now let's come back to Carole who goes in with her key.

    Once at home, the dreamer notices that someone, Jean Luc, has come to cook for her.

    Who is Jean Luc? He is a gardener friend, he is the one who takes care of the soil and must know how to take care of the cherry tree.

    What is the link between these two images?

    Thus, when the dreamer recognizes the need to satisfy her instinctive needs, as her body demands, she has in her hands the key which will reveal to her the delight of the senses. And that's when Jean-Luc appears, the dynamism in her that takes care of the garden of her body and prepares delicious food.

    Jean-Luc prepared a recipe for me. And for his recipe he needs basil.

    Carole hears the word "basil" with two different meanings.

    On the one hand, the word "basil" (French: basilic) applies to a plant with broad leaves, which develops a strong, healthy and delicious taste. Wouldn't that be an image of the feminine intimate area?

     

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    But our friend also hears the word "basilica" (French: basilique), which refers to a church, a sacred place where the divine whom we come to meet resides.

     

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    What does this connection between basil and basilica mean?

    With the basil, the dreamer enjoys her intimacy; the joy of the senses then leads to the inner basilica, where the encounter with the divine within is accomplished. It is because one enters the sanctuary of the divinity that sexual pleasure takes its heavenly intensity. Sensuality and spirituality are blended.

    Jean-Luc

    It is in this perspective that Jean-Luc's first name also takes on its full meaning. We can indeed wonder why the dream chooses this gardener friend while the dreamer knows several of them. And wouldn't there be a fancy wink of the dream again? Let's see.

    Luc (Luke) comes from the Greek "leukos" which means "light"; and everyone in France knows that Luc's anagram is "cul", "ass". That there is in the foundation of the "ass" a source of light, this is what is meant in french erotic slang by the expressions "to shine" ("faire reluire") or "to illuminate" ("illuminer") which mean: "to give an orgasm". The pun on Luc / cul (Luke / ass) therefore takes up the teaching given by basil / basilica again.

    And Jean? (John) What does this name give if I play and reverse the syllables? "an/je", that is "ange" ("angel").

    So, I will calmly deduce that in the foundation there is a force which brings out the light and connects to the divinity. And why not?

    Is this shocking? The sexual and the spiritual are the two instinctive poles of Eros, the two sides of the same soul reality. The soul that expresses itself in love is as much animal as it is spiritual. "The orgasm is the experience in the body of the ecstasy which animates the soul." (1)

     

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    We have now arrived at the meaning of the dream:

    The inner guide advises our friend to allow herself, in the absence of her friend, to savor the erotic pleasures alone. She is also invited to be well aware that, even alone in this jubilation, there too the divine is present, as when she is in the arms of her friend.

    Carole can't believe it! For her, this is a surprise! What an initiation!

    A question now arises: what does this have to do with the question Carole asked while falling asleep? "How can I treat my cherry tree?"

    The dream comes to show the young woman that in order to treat the cherry tree in her concrete outdoor garden, she must take care of her Earth, her body, her symbolic inner garden, she must dare to pluck even solitary sensual pleasures, knowing that the Earth, like her body, is the temple of the divinity.

    So, by recognizing the sacred dimension of her body, by healing her inner Earth, her instinctive Nature, she also heals Nature, the Earth outside of her.

    And very humbly this is how she can take care of her cherry tree according to the dream.

     

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    Conclusion

    I have just presented you three dreams, dreams of women where it is a question of saving the earth, of healing the sick earth, the sick tree.

    These three dreams seem to insist on the same point. All three invite the dreamers to change their way of thinking: instead of claiming to control their life with ideas that the dream considers false, tyrannical, even destructive, they would benefit from making more room for instinctive and sexual life, which has nothing to do with intellectual cogitations.

    From these three dreams, could we allow ourselves to deduce that this would be a general advice?

    Could it then be that by caring for our inner Earth, our instinctive Nature, we are also healing Nature, the Earth outside?

    But respecting your instinctive life, it sounds really popular and working-class, it's so prosaic, trivial, even "typically French", isn't it? Frankly, it seems too stupid and too simple.

    And you will tell me:

    "- Come on Christiane, stop writing poppycock! Saving the planet requires enormous interventions at the planetary level, much more important means on a world scale, and not very small intimate and personal means, at the individual level. Do you realise the nonsense you are talking?

    I know. But why wouldn't the dream invite everyone, where they are, to try to find the oldest ecology, the primitive basic ecology?

    And why couldn't the right activity of billions of beings influence the planet?

    What is better?

    - Skip school to demonstrate to save the planet? Or :

    - Attend lessons and cultivate one's secret garden, under the smiling gaze of the gods who make the earth flower?

    Possible correspondence between these moments, when "in a dark and deep unity" the inner earth and the outer earth "to each other respond"?

    Wouldn't this be the ABC of instinctive ecology?

    Would the dream seem to invite every environmentalist, who fights for the planet, not to follow his intellect and his calculations, but to first honor his body and the force of sensual love which lies within him/her, because this force is the expression in him/her of the divinity who protects and rules the earth?

    You know well that the dream does not come to say things which we already know. He comes to show what we do not see.

    Christiane

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    Could this caring for our inner earth also help in case of severe drought? Can we directly influence the climate by changing our inner attitude? Don't miss our next study to get the answer!

    In the passion for dreams,

    Marianne

     

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    Bibliography

    (1) This quote is taken from Christiane Riedel's book Amour et sexe dans vos rêves (Love and sex in your dreams), Trajectoire editions, p. 10. It was written by Dr Gérard Leleu in his introduction to my book, to present the perspective of dreams, as I have set them out in the pages of this book.

     

    Illustrations

    I thank the artists whose works, paintings and photographs have enabled me to illustrate my blog.

    I especially thank the contemporary Russian artist Serge Marschennikov, who paints women with such a splendor and refinement I never get tired of admiring.

    ill cherry tree: http://greffer.net/

    "Basket, raspberries and roses", painting by the English artist Eloise Harriet Stannart (1829-1915): https://artuk.org/discover/artworks/overturned-basket-with-raspberries-white-currants-and-roses-1028

    Young sleeping woman: Serge Marshennikov. This painting is part of a series called "Women in love".

    https://widowcranky.com/2017/12/02/women-in-love-serge-marshennikov/

    Girl with wheat hair, Serge Marshennikov

    Basil: http://123RF.com/

    Basilica: Inside of Saint Peter's basilica in Rome, Vatican city.

    http://Wikipedia.org/wiki/Fichier

    Amore e psiche: Psyche Revived by Cupid's Kiss, by the italian sculptor Antonio Canova, 1757-1822. This piece required 6 years of work, from 1787 to 1793 ; Louvre museum: http://adjine.canalblog.com/

    Blossoming cherry tree: booksofdante.wordpress.com

    Claude Monnet's garden in Giverny from the French painter Claude Monnet (1840-1926)

     

    This article was first published on the French blog on November 10, 2019:

    http://christiane-riedel.blogspirit.com/archive/2019/11/10/comment-soigner-mon-cerisier-3143537.html