Dear blog friends,

From the end of November 2020 to February 2021, we have just spent three months reflecting on the relationship between the outside world and the inside world. For you, on this subject, I have collected and translated 6 fascinating articles, 6 articles that Christiane, over the course of time, has put on her blog with love. Dreams teach us so many surprising facts!

Today we are going to move on to another study theme and you will go from one surprise to another.

Yes, you will! Could you imagine it? The new topic is:

Of the Happiness of Anger

Anger!

Anger is getting a lot of bad press today. That's the negative emotion to run away from.

One exclaims:

- But stay zen, my dear!

And the other says:

- If you're angry, my poor thing, it's because you're far from having reached Enlightenment!

An Enlightened One is detached from these inner storms, he controls himself and remains calm, above the disturbances of this lower earth.

Softness, serenity are the proof of a certain spiritual elevation.

One can read for example on the Internet:

"Anger or Zen?

Angry attitude or Zen meditation? Their consequences are deeper than you think. Anger creates disorders of the organism. The stress it causes diminishes the quality of our immune system and makes us susceptible to infections: herpes pimples, liver disease, and, for some, a list of even worse ravages. On the contrary, the result of a session of relaxation, letting go, or sharing increases the immune defences, balances the heartbeat, lowers blood pressure. Choose your side!"

Thus, one restrains oneself from any vigorous movement, one refrains from saying directly what one thinks, one shows oneself smooth, one does not contradict, one is kind! Oh yes... a love...

A certain form of "Christianity" - is it that of Christ? I don't think so -, and a certain form of "Buddhism" - is it Buddha's? I don't know -, agree on this point, recommending to avoid any movement that could hurt, hurt the other or do harm.

But this is not always the opinion of dreams. We have already studied the dream of Tania, which showed her that being mean like her sister-in-law by getting angry with her colleagues was beneficial to her.

Dreams are the expression of nature, of life, of the instinctive force that defends its territory. And dreams don't necessarily find that anger is always that bad. You will be able to judge for yourself with this dream.

Many women have a charming temperament, they are gentle, patient, tolerant. Their greatest desire is to maintain peace in the home. Loren is one of them.

Never raising her voice. If she has a reproach to make, she says it nicely, with very measured words.

She has received a very "Christian" education and she keeps in mind the words of Saint Paul:

"Love has long patience, love is kind [...]

it is not quickly provoked, does not impute evil, [...]

it bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." (1)

The famous apostle understood very well the necessity of love, he who, filled with hatred a few years earlier, helped the murderous Jews to stone the first Christians (The Bible, Acts of the Apostles, ch.7, v.58; Acts, ch.8, v.1-3; Acts, ch.26, v.9-10).

But Loren doesn't know hate.

Life is easy with the young woman. Yet she doesn't have an easy life. Her husband has a drinking problem, which makes him irascible, aggressive, bad. And Loren puts up with it, without saying anything.

But dreams are watching over her, and she received this dream that she confided to me:

Dream

I'm sitting at a table in a bar. I see a man coming towards me. He hands me a package, it's a gift. I take it and look at it: it's a chocolate bar, the one I used to eat when I was little. It's Kohler chocolate.

She woke up amazed.

Let's conduct the interpretation methodically.

The bar

The first picture shows a place in everyday life, where one can stop and sit down for a moment of relaxation, regain strength, have something to eat.

The dreamer explains to me that she rarely goes to a bar, she doesn't have the time and finds it useless to spend money in this way.

So this dream is about relaxing and regaining strength.

Loren in everyday life is tired, tense, dissatisfied, without realising it. And she doesn't allow herself to take time for herself, to regain energy.

A man brings her a chocolate bar.
A man

As I have often explained before, the only thing that distinguishes a man from a woman is his sex, which manifests itself in the outside world, whereas the sex of a woman is inside her body.

So what does the penis symbolically mean? It designates what is called the phallic force, that is to say the capacity to assert oneself in the world of matter, thanks to the creative power of the idea, of thought, and thanks to the strength to fight to give form to an idea.

This man, whom the dreamer doesn't know, shows her that she has within her the power to assert herself in the outside world and to fight for a result as well. But Loren doesn't know this.

The chocolate bar

Who doesn't like chocolate? But Loren doesn't eat it. It's not in her habits.

It's a dark brown substance, she tells me, that you bite into and it melts in your mouth, it's very good, it's very pleasurable and it's tonic.

Let's recapitulate the meaning of the previous images:

When it comes to regaining strength (the bar), the dream presents our friend with a man: her capacity for affirmation, of which she has no idea. This stranger offers her something to help her assert herself, something good, that pleases, that gives her strength.

What is it?

Could it be the sexual relationship with her husband? It is true that chocolate often represents the voluptuous pleasures of love.

I'll check it out. Everything Loren said about chocolate must then also be able to be said about her love relationship with her husband.

The young woman explained that she is not used to eating chocolate. Does this mean that she rarely makes love? No. This is not the case at all. Sexual intimacy is frequent in her couple.

What is it then?

It's Kohler chocolate, the chocolate Loren ate when she was little.

The dreamer learned German in school, and still remembers it well enough to know that "die Kohle" means coal and "der Kohler" means coalman.

Ah, Coalman chocolate, like Suchard or Nestlé chocolate.

So why does the dream choose this brand rather than another?

Kohler

Isn't there a play on words? Of course there is! If you happen to speak French, you will know that "Kohler" sounds like "colère", which means anger! This chocolate is anger!

Let's do the checks:

- Loren ate chocolate when she was little. Did she get angry as a child? "Yes," she says, she used to fight with her brothers and sisters and she was no pushover.

- "Chocolate is good, it makes you happy and gives you strength," said Loren. What about anger?

- "Yes," exclaimed the young woman, "when you've said what's on your heart, it's a relief, it feels good, it makes you feel better".

So, check it out, Kohler chocolate is anger. Loren needs to taste her anger.

The dreamer looks at me dubious, dubious. What!? She should let her anger build up and express it?

She tells me that she often feels a shock in her stomach, every time something doesn't seem right and hurts her, but she pushes this signal away, she prevents herself from reacting to avoid conflict, she handles her emotions, she always remains calm and likeable. She shuts up.

Well, no, no, and no! The dream offers her something else. It advises her from now on to assert herself and, in order to do so, to decide to say what is in her heart, to get angry. But then, it's not peace, no, there is going to be war in the marriage!

Loren went home very puzzled. And it wasn't long before she had the opportunity to feel the strength that she had been pushing back inside her, and courageously, expecting a terrible scene, for once she threw a tantrum, said her disagreement, said her anger.

And then, ... surprise... she felt relieved, liberated, at ease and full of energy.

In front of her, her husband, dumbfounded, listened to her indignation, looked at her without saying a word. And when she fell silent, he said to her:

- I didn't know you were so beautiful when you're angry.

It was without irony, it was sincere, to make up for it.

He approached her, he took her in his arms and held her close to him.

Loren hid her face on that solid chest and in her head she heard herself say:

- My God! If I had known! How inhibited I have been, and how stupid!

Does this mean that Loren will always have to get systematically angry? Certainly not. Dreams have come to compensate for an imbalance of which she was unaware. They advised her to follow her instinctive reaction. The external principles are valid, of course, but the internal reaction is more accurate and always better suited to the circumstances of the moment. Respecting her emotion, being faithful to her feelings, that is what the young woman must learn. And anger is one of them. It's coal from the coalman, and it gives energy, the energy of the earth.

Christiane
Translated by Marianne

Dear friends, here you are informed about anger, the energy of the coalman, of coal, the energy that comes from the deep earth. Are you astonished?... Then wait for next time's dream, an extremely rare dream that fell into Christiane's hands under exceptional circumstances, it's a priceless dream!... that may make you angry...?

See you soon!

Marianne
My Facebook Page about Dream Interpretation
a.vos.songes@gmail.com

References

(1) The Bible, Darby Translation, 1 Corinthians, chapter 13, verses 4 to 7

Illustrations

I would like to thank the artists and photographers whose works allowed me to illustrate my blog.

I haven't found the address of several photos and I ask their authors not to hold it against me.

Anger: Blog Les scénarios de Marie

Meditating cat: reddit.com

Meditating woman: wallpaperaccess.com

Roaring lion: Petr Ganaj
https://www.instagram.com/petrganaj/
https://www.pexels.com/de-de/@ganajp

Divanna Pljevalcic: Tout Metz

Chocolate Bar Jean-Paul Hevin in Paris: Pinterest

Benjamin Castaldi: Closermag

Chocolates: Greta Garbure

Kohler chocolate: Au féminin

Kohler chocolate: Galerie 123

Gone with the Wind, Vivien Leigh and Clark Gable: Film kisses by Gigi Superstar

This article was published on the French blog on 25 February 2013:

Les rêves ne vous disent pas ce que vous attendez

Dream       An old buddy

Lately, life provided me with the opportunity to interpret a very simple dream and I’ll let you discover what came out of it. Some time ago I was invited to my nephew John’s wedding in the South of France.  John works in Hong Kong and that’s where he met his wife, a Chinese girl who had been brought up in Paris. The wedding provided both families the occasion to get together and meet the in-laws and numerous grandchildren.  It was also an opportunity to meet many foreigners as the gathering was quite cosmopolitan.

The cocktail party was held in a superb park and we were all happy to chat with one another.

I went to hear the latest from Paul, an American friend living in France, whom I hadn’t  seen for a long time.  He was speaking with other guests, there was a Chinese man who was the brother of the bride, an Irishman with a pretty French woman and two charming Japanese girls.

Paul greets me nicely:

- Hello Christiane, I saw you last year on the Morning Program on French television.  You did well.

- You were on TV, the Irishman politely asks. And what was the topic ?

- Christiane’s passion is understanding the meaning of dreams, explains Paul, she does dream interpretation.

- Oh ! really ? How interesting, says Miki one of the Japanese girls !

And naturally the conversation starts on the subject of dreams and I am soon bombarded with questions.

- Do you believe that premonitory dreams exist ?

- Can you interpret all the dreams ?

- How do you go about interpreting dreams, asks Miki ?

By now, I am a bit embarrassed, how can I answer such a question ?

- Listen, I said, let us see one of your dreams ! It is the easiest way to explain it to you. Have you had a dream lately ?

- I rarely dream but a few days ago I had a short dream, replied Miki.

- Would you like to tell us, Paul enquires with interest.

- Oh ! it was just one image : I saw an old buddy of mine.

I try to get a bit more detailed information, so I ask : 

 - That’s all ? There was nothing else in the dream

 - No, that’s all. He was just there.

 The little group waits, curious as to what I would do next.

 I think to myself : “This is the ideal dream. I have little time for a full explanation but it will be easy to briefly explain the interview technique”.  So I say :

 - You see, when you have a person in your dream, you must always ask two questions about the person.

 The first question is: “ Who is this person ?”

 - So tell us, who is this old buddy ?

 - It’s a guy I had met but I haven’t seen him in a long time. I don’t know what became of him.

 I continue asking :

 The second question to ask is : “How is this person?” 

 So I ask Miki :

 - What was this friend like, what characterized him when you were in contact with him ?

 - There was one thing that really annoyed me about him, answered the young lady immediately, he was unable to make a decision, he didn’t know what he wanted.

 I go on with my questions :

 - And in the end, how did he make his choices ?

 - He irritated me because he always did the things that would make him look good, even if he didn’t feel like doing them.

Now that I’ve gathered the information, it’s up to me to recapitulate the description and invite the dreamer to think about it.

I don’t know what will come of this but I’m not worried, knowing how helpful dreams can be.

Then I explain to the young woman :

- Miki, most of the time the people in our dreams represent facets of ourselves.

In general, because of his morphology, the man in a dream represents a masculine side, a force of affirmation in the outside world.

So this old friend represents your way of manifesting yourself in the outside world : for example in your job or your day-to-day life, when you are thinking, organizing, creating or building.

How interesting says the irish man ! But excuse me for interrupting you ! Can you tell me,  what does a woman represent  in a dream ?

Oh ! A woman, because of her morphology, corresponds to a receptive attitude, welcoming the inner world, what happens inside of you, what you fell, emotions, sensations, intuitions, dreams and spiritual perceptions.

Now I must go on with my investigations and  establish a link between this inner image and what it corresponds to in Miki’s daily life.

Getting back to the image of the friend, I recapitulate briefly its description :

- Miki, from what you’ve been saying, this old friend has a problem making choices.

Now, tell us : when you had this dream a few days ago, does this attitude remind you of a same situation in your daily life ?

At that time did you have difficulties in knowing what you wanted ?  Were you in a state of hesitation ? Did you have a decision to take that you could not reach ?

Miki is startled and looks at me.  She is pale.

- But how do you know…?

The young Japanese woman looks thunderstruck. She mumbles:

- That’s exactly it !

Intrigued we wait for her explanations.

- I work in a bank and lately I’ve been sent to another department under a different boss.  I’m having problems with this new boss, and I don’t like my new position, I’d like to do something else.  My boss doesn’t understand my desire to change and I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m unable to decide.

I comment :

- Oh! You are going through quite a common experience : the difficulty of choosing.  It is even a universal, crucial experience.  But look at what you’ve said about your old friend, look at your feelings : : what annoys you is that he bases his choices on what people are going to say about him, he wants to look good. He doesn’t do what he wants, he gives priority to other people’s judgment. He’s not true to himself.

- He’s not free says the Irishman.

- Exactly.

- So what does the dream mean, asks the other Japanese girl with a lovely smile ?

 I try to be as clear as possible:

- Miki, if your old friend appears in your dream at this time, it is because you are adopting the same behavior, you’re hesitating and you are tempted to act like him, to choose a solution based on other people’s viewpoint.

According to your description your friend appears negative.  He annoys you, what he does doesn’t please you. Through this your dream is showing you that it is not in your interest to adopt the same behavior. You are being told to be true to yourself, to make your choices for yourself, to do what pleases you, even if the people in your life have a different point of view.

- But it’s very difficult says the pretty French girl !

- You’re right ! You don’t conquer this overnight.

Miki looks at me, she seems quite moved.

- Christiane, I’m deeply touched by what you have said. Thanks to this dream, thanks to your explanations, I’ve just realized something : with this new job, this new boss, isn’t life putting me in this situation simply so that I can become aware that this job is not what I want to do?  So the question is : what do I really want to do?

That’s what I have to think about now.

Miki, looking at me, takes my hand between hers and adds :

- You know, Christiane, I will remember our conversation.  I would have never thought a dream could have such a dimension, I never imagined that a dream could be so precious. Now I know what I have to do when I get back.  Thank you, thank you very much. 

I felt very happy, I had just seen that my way of interpreting dreams made it possible for me to understand the dream of a woman about whom I knew nothing. And more than that, this method of working with the dream appears obviously to be an universal one, since it has been easily understood by several people of different continents : Japanese women, French women, an Irish man, an American man, and a Chinese man.

And once again I realized how helpful dreams are for anybody under any circumstances.

Night was falling, it was beginning to feel chilly, the head waiter invited us to go in and take our place at the table.

 You will find the French essay on the French blog :

Click on the link  : le blog des rêves de Christiane Riedel

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Illustrations

I thank all the artists whose works permit me to illustrate my blog.

Cocktail : http://château-aventuriers.com

Champagne : cocktail à la  La Tour Vaucros

Banquet : http://www.mariage-wallonie.be

Paul Newman

Young Chinese man :http://photo-media.hanmail-net

Japanese buddy : Hayami Mocomichi, crunchyroll.com

Young man : http:/ :img15.imageshack.us

Young man : vera26.livejournal.com

A man : Pierce Brosman as James Bond

A woman : asiandramas.comblog.fr

Irish man : Acteur John Lucas : sondage-mecs.skyrock.com

Smiling Japanese woman : www. pbase.com

Chinese bank : http:/ :www.beijingdaily.com

Chinese banker : htp://www.blomberg.com

Japanese woman : lesmomotos.fr

Surprised : http://29img.v4.skyrock.net